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EXPLORING GOOD SEX TOGETHER

 

This questionnaire is for couples who wish to explore improving their sex together.

Single guys can use this to better understand their sexual interests and then become more assertive in finding the sex they like.

 

It is best to fill this form out separate from your partner(s).  Try to be a through as possible in your answers.  If you need more space you can write on the margins or on other paper. Think of statements like: “I like it when you…”, or “I would like you to ….”, or “I would like to …….”.  Try to think as creatively as possible, and be as open as possible.  When you answer these questions please talk about what you would like from your partner(s) and what you want to experience/do with him/them.

Then get together with your partner(s) and discuss your answers.

These are the following categories you are asked to write your feelings about.

Kissing                                                  Hugging Holding                              Fondling/Groping

Body Touching                                  Nipple Play                                        Butt Play

Balls                                                      Cock                                                      Ass Hole

Cum                                                       Toys                                                       Fetish                                                  

SM                                                         Porn                                                      Drugs                                                   

Fisting                                                  Threesomes (+)                                                Talking during sex                          

Bath Houses/Parks, etc.               Open Relationship                          Sexual Hang-ups                             

Other

 

EXAMPLE:   KISSING

I like it when you :  stick your tongue deep in my mouth.

I would like more:  of the times you gently bite on my lower lip, it is nice.

 I kind of like/maybe like: kissing you hard and long

I don’t/not sure I like:  You spitting in my mouth, kissing in public

Other comments: I worry about me having bad breath sometimes.

 

KISSING

When we are kissing together, I like:

I like it when you: ______________________________________________________________________

I would like more: ______________________________________________________________________

I kind of like/maybe like: ________________________________________________________________

I don’t/not sure I like: ___________________________________________________________________

Other comments: ______________________________________________________________________

 

 

 

 

 

HUGGING/HOLDING (non-sexual touching)

When we are hugging/holding each other I like:

I like it when you: ______________________________________________________________________

I would like more: ______________________________________________________________________

I kind of like/maybe like: ________________________________________________________________

I don’t/not sure I like: ___________________________________________________________________

Other comments: ______________________________________________________________________

 

 

 

 

 

FONDLING/GROPING/CUDDLING (sexual touching, through clothes)

(for example: crotch touching, ass grabbing/patting, nipple tweaking etc.)

When we are fondling/groping each other I like:

I like it when you: ______________________________________________________________________

I would like more: ______________________________________________________________________

I kind of like/maybe like: ________________________________________________________________

I don’t/not sure I like: ___________________________________________________________________

Other comments: ______________________________________________________________________

 

 

 

 

 

BODY TOUCHING/CUDDLING  – No clothing (sexual/sensual body touching, and/or cuddling)

(For example:  touching rubbing back/legs/face/hands etc, etc.)

When we are touching each other’s naked bodies I like:

I like it when you: ______________________________________________________________________

I would like more: ______________________________________________________________________

I kind of like/maybe like: ________________________________________________________________

I don’t/not sure I like: ___________________________________________________________________

Other comments: ______________________________________________________________________

 

 

 

NIPPLE PLAY:

(For example: touching, licking, sucking intensity, etc.)

When we play with each other’s nipples I like:

I like it when you: ______________________________________________________________________

I would like more: ______________________________________________________________________

I kind of like/maybe like: ________________________________________________________________

I don’t/not sure I like: ___________________________________________________________________

Other comments: ______________________________________________________________________

 

 

 

 

BUTT PLAY: (not ass-hole)

(For example grabbing, touching, slapping etc.)

When we touch/play with each other butts I like:

I like it when you: ______________________________________________________________________

I would like more: ______________________________________________________________________

I kind of like/maybe like: ________________________________________________________________

I don’t/not sure I like: ___________________________________________________________________

Other comments: ______________________________________________________________________

 

 

 

 

BALLS:

(For example: touching, pulling, licking, slapping etc.)

When we are touching each other’s balls I like:

I like it when you: ______________________________________________________________________

I would like more: ______________________________________________________________________

I kind of like/maybe like: ________________________________________________________________

I don’t/not sure I like: ___________________________________________________________________

Other comments: ______________________________________________________________________

 

 

 

 

 

COCK:

(For example: touching, stroking, sucking, licking, slapping etc.)

When we are playing with each other’s cock I like:

I like it when you: ______________________________________________________________________

I would like more: ______________________________________________________________________

I kind of like/maybe like: ________________________________________________________________

I don’t/not sure I like: ___________________________________________________________________

Other comments: ______________________________________________________________________

 

 

 

ASS HOLE:

(For example: rimming, fucking, harder/longer/more often, clean, fingering, dildos, etc.)

When we are playing with each other’s ass hole I like:

I like it when you: ______________________________________________________________________

I would like more: ______________________________________________________________________

I kind of like/maybe like: ________________________________________________________________

I don’t/not sure I like: ___________________________________________________________________

Other comments: ______________________________________________________________________

 

 

 

 

 

CUM:

I have the following feelings about cum:

I am very interested in: __________________________________________________________________

I am curious about: _____________________________________________________________________

I kind of like/maybe like: ________________________________________________________________

I don’t think I would like: _ _______________________________________________________________

Other comments: ______________________________________________________________________

 

 

 

TOYS:

(For example:  dildos, electro, nip clamps, etc.)

I like it when you: ______________________________________________________________________

I would like more: ______________________________________________________________________

I kind of like/maybe like: ________________________________________________________________

I don’t/not sure I like: ___________________________________________________________________

Other comments: ______________________________________________________________________

 

 

 

 

FETISH:

I have some interest in exploring the following fetishes:

I have the following fetishes I would like to explore/talk about: (for example:  leather, boots, jockstraps, water sports, scat, etc.)

I am very interested in: __________________________________________________________________

I am curious about: _____________________________________________________________________

I kind of like/maybe like: ________________________________________________________________

I don’t think I would like: ________________________________________________________________

Other comments: ______________________________________________________________________

 

 

 

 

 

SM:

I would like to maybe explore some of these things:

I would talk about/explore the follow “SM” stuff:   (For example:  being tied up, tying you up, whips, paddles, wax, slapping, edging etc.)

I am very interested in: __________________________________________________________________

I am curious about: _____________________________________________________________________

I kind of like/maybe like: ________________________________________________________________

I don’t think I would like: _______________________________________________________________

Other comments: ______________________________________________________________________

 

 

 

PORN

I have the following feelings about Porn:

I am very interested in: __________________________________________________________________

I am curious about: _____________________________________________________________________

I kind of like/maybe like: ________________________________________________________________

I don’t think I would like: ________________________________________________________________

Other comments: ______________________________________________________________________

 

 

 

 

 

 

Drugs

(For example:  Poppers, Marijuana,  E, Crystal Meth, Alcohol, etc.)

I have the follow feelings about sex and drugs together:

I am very interested in: __________________________________________________________________

I am curious about: _____________________________________________________________________

I kind of like/maybe like: ________________________________________________________________

I don’t think I would like: _______________________________________________________________

Other comments: ______________________________________________________________________

 

 

 

 

Fisting

I have the following feelings about fisting/fingering:

I am very interested in: __________________________________________________________________

I am curious about: _____________________________________________________________________

I kind of like/maybe like: ________________________________________________________________

I don’t think I would like: ________________________________________________________________

Other comments: ______________________________________________________________________

 

 

 

 

 

Threesomes (and 4 and 5 etc.)

I have the following feelings about threesomes and 4 and 5 etc.:

I am very interested in: __________________________________________________________________

I am curious about: _____________________________________________________________________

I kind of like/maybe like: ________________________________________________________________

I don’t think I would like:  _______________________________________________________________

Other comments: ______________________________________________________________________

 

 

 

 

 

 

BATH HOUSE/PARKS/PUBLIC SEX

I have the following feelings about bath houses:

I am very interested in: __________________________________________________________________

I am curious about: _____________________________________________________________________

I kind of like/maybe like: ________________________________________________________________

I don’t think I would like: ________________________________________________________________

Other comments: ______________________________________________________________________

 

 

 

 

 

Talking during sex play

(for example: “that feels good”, “harder”, “I love you…” or name calling)

I would like to be able to say/express the following things when we are having sex.____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

I would like you to say/express the following things when we are having sex.  _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

 

 

 

 

SEX WITH OTHER GUYS (OPEN RELATIONSHIP)

I have the following feelings about an open relationship:

I am very interested in: __________________________________________________________________

I am curious about: _____________________________________________________________________

I kind of like/maybe like: ________________________________________________________________

I don’t think I would like: ________________________________________________________________

Other comments: ______________________________________________________________________

 

 

 

 

I HAVE THE FOLLOW SEXUAL HANG-UPS/CONCERNS/PROBLEMS

(For example: losing erection when I fuck, dirty ass hole, too shy, to horny, cum to soon, etc. etc.)

___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

 

 

 

 

 

 

Other things not covered:

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